Pair #49 Wanting is never enough
Wanting is a huge black hole of never-enough that never is filled up because it always wants, by definition, more.
Wanting is excessive by nature and never complete. It underpins our constant state of unhappiness, all our striving, our personal masks and our poor choices.
There's nothing wrong with wanting what we want. We all have permission to have what we want too. But I see so much of our wanting leading to greater unhappiness that I find myself exploring the difference between 'wanting' and 'desire'.
I'm not talking about desire as in our sexual appetite, but rather that personal heart-GPS device, an internal compass, an inkling, a feeling of ‘let’s go over there.’ It’s the walking across the street to smell a flower. It’s the signing up for a children’s literature writing class when you don’t know why. What I notice is that desire takes me to places where I am often free of wanting anything. Desire doesn’t make me feel better - it always just feels good.
Another thing I notice is I do not have to deserve anything when it comes to my desire. I just follow it or I don’t. Wanting is the path of those who believe in worthiness. My wish for all humanity is that everyone get far, far, far, more than they 'deserve'. We don't deserve, but we do express.
Desire gives expression a destination.
Wanting is excessive by nature and never complete. It underpins our constant state of unhappiness, all our striving, our personal masks and our poor choices.
There's nothing wrong with wanting what we want. We all have permission to have what we want too. But I see so much of our wanting leading to greater unhappiness that I find myself exploring the difference between 'wanting' and 'desire'.
I'm not talking about desire as in our sexual appetite, but rather that personal heart-GPS device, an internal compass, an inkling, a feeling of ‘let’s go over there.’ It’s the walking across the street to smell a flower. It’s the signing up for a children’s literature writing class when you don’t know why. What I notice is that desire takes me to places where I am often free of wanting anything. Desire doesn’t make me feel better - it always just feels good.
Another thing I notice is I do not have to deserve anything when it comes to my desire. I just follow it or I don’t. Wanting is the path of those who believe in worthiness. My wish for all humanity is that everyone get far, far, far, more than they 'deserve'. We don't deserve, but we do express.
Desire gives expression a destination.
© 2010 Elese Coit
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