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The Fluffy Stuff

5/13/2010

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Pair #31 Show me the evidence!
You know there is a difference between Hard Skills and Soft Skills when you tell your parents you are leaving medical school to study sociology.

Hard skills are things like math and hammering nails.  It's the stuff we consider employable and usable.  Soft skills are things like relating and intuition. Which we consider nice but optional.  In business, they are the first training expenditures to be dropped when budget restrictions hit; it's harder to understand the ROI (Return On Investment) on communication skills, than it is for a bookeeping.

How much we undervalue the softer skills of life came home to me as I attended a Supercoach Masterclass where Kevin Laye demonstrated (his particularly successful practice of) Thought Field Therapy. TFT is a quick and effective way of ending stress, phobias and a host of other modern plagues  It can even resolve physical pain in record time. Yes, we are talking minutes.  Kevin gave many examples of the absolute effectiveness of this work.

In the discussion with Kevin afterwards, he was asked about the hard evidence behind why this works. 

Kevin's response was genius:

Think of someone you love he said. Everyone has someone or an animal they love.  He asked the group to consider how they would measure that love - inches? centimeters? miles?  Where does that love live?  Your brain? Your physical heart? Your blood? How would you show it to me or take it from place to place - In a box? A wheelbarrow? In a thimble? 

Love is something we know exists.  Yet we can't 'prove' it exists with physical evidence.

I don’t think he was suggesting TFT works on love, but rather pointing out that many things that we accept exist and know are real live on the level of what we cannot see or measure.  If you look around don't you ever wonder what that certain something is that successful people have?  Don't we say "I wish I could bottle that?"  We are talking about something beyond technical competence.  Yet when we make our own choices, we'll choose to acquire more competencies.

It just got me to thinking how many of the ‘softer’ things that are essential to a good life are immeasurable and yet immeasurably valuable.  I thought how often I’d made learning decisions based on what seemed practical and ignored the fluffy stuff because I was unsure of the ROI.  That cost me in the long run.

Every time we hesitate to invest in growing and developing our entire selves, and not just the 'hard' skills, we forget this.  

Or maybe we just don’t believe that a good life is possible; only a technically competent one.
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Weston
5/14/2010 03:03:39 am

If the question really was regarding hard evidence as to why this works then this is an acceptable (albeit amorphous) answer.

If however the question was intended to elicit hard evidence regarding whether it does in fact work then it was a terrible answer. Did he provide evidence of controlled experiments and tests that proved that it does end stress, phobias and a host of other modern plagues?

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Elese
5/17/2010 01:44:40 pm

Hi Weston,
Thanks for your comment. I get what you are saying. It would be a terrible answer! But no, the evidence is already there in the form of cured people so...

The discussion and the question were really not so much about proving that it works It was more about the why it works.

It's an amorphous answer, Yes, and one that I liked because it suggests we don't always know everything all the time... as advances in quantum physics have shown, knowledge changes and our concepts change as we understand more. Which to me means that at any point there can always be things that are unexplainable, but only because of the limits of our own thinking, ot because our current paradigm needs to be proved right.

I can't say I'm an expert so I suggest seeing Kevin's site at http://kevinlaye.co.uk - and talk to him. I for one was impressed.

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