How to Say No

Pair #45 I'll like me if you will

I wish I had a dollar for every time I didn't say no when I really wanted to.   And I also wish I'd known a lot sooner in life that...

The key to saying no is Permission.

If at any time I am having trouble saying no, here is what I do:

• Give myself permission to want what I want.
  
• Give myself permission to not look for a reason why.
  
• Give myself permission to be wrong. (Are the planets likely to grind to orbital halt really?)
• Give the other person the right to hate me.  (By giving them the right to feel how they feel, I get to do the same)

People want things.  I want things.   If we really accepted that everyone simpy wants what they want, it opens the cage door and frees us all.

In the end, one can be liked, or free.

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More on the difference between loving someone and being a doormat watch this video from Greg Baer  (and listen to the show with Greg today, Friday June 4th on What Men Really Want. Live at 10 am Pacific
If the video doesn't work, paste this link into your browser:
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