Recently I was responding to a forum post from someone waiting to be in "the best place possible" before they got started with a project that was important to them. It made me think...
... timing and readiness are important, but I also think there is a difference between being in the best place we can be and being in the perfect place - as we embrace new challenges.
To be in the best place in me means actually caring for myself well (doing something called 'self care') and showing up fully present. In other words, more aware of what is going on right now in front of me and more focused right here in this minute than either in the past or in the future. When I am present I not only know what to do, but also what not to do and what I am ready and not ready for.
When I am waiting to be in the perfect place, well, that's it isn't it? I'm waiting. I generally feel I'm not up to the tasks in front of me. That they are simply too big, and I am simply too small. I think I have to be something I'm not in order to live my life. I forget that clearly I am enough to live my life perfectly well. The proof of that is I'm here.
The moment I start wobbling around thinking there is something I need to fix or some ‘better place’ I’ll arrive at one day: be it a place of greater understanding, a place of less ego, or a place of less stress then I try to get ready for that big fixing task. Sometimes that takes a whole lifetime. (Know anyone who's been 'getting ready' for a lifetime?)
While I believe it is good to do things when we are ready, what I notice is we also find lots of ways to tell ourselves - we are not ready yet.
Today I’m reflecting on just how much our ‘not ready yet’ can cost us. And perhaps, the world.
... timing and readiness are important, but I also think there is a difference between being in the best place we can be and being in the perfect place - as we embrace new challenges.
To be in the best place in me means actually caring for myself well (doing something called 'self care') and showing up fully present. In other words, more aware of what is going on right now in front of me and more focused right here in this minute than either in the past or in the future. When I am present I not only know what to do, but also what not to do and what I am ready and not ready for.
When I am waiting to be in the perfect place, well, that's it isn't it? I'm waiting. I generally feel I'm not up to the tasks in front of me. That they are simply too big, and I am simply too small. I think I have to be something I'm not in order to live my life. I forget that clearly I am enough to live my life perfectly well. The proof of that is I'm here.
The moment I start wobbling around thinking there is something I need to fix or some ‘better place’ I’ll arrive at one day: be it a place of greater understanding, a place of less ego, or a place of less stress then I try to get ready for that big fixing task. Sometimes that takes a whole lifetime. (Know anyone who's been 'getting ready' for a lifetime?)
While I believe it is good to do things when we are ready, what I notice is we also find lots of ways to tell ourselves - we are not ready yet.
Today I’m reflecting on just how much our ‘not ready yet’ can cost us. And perhaps, the world.
Pair #6 Unready for Readiness
© 2010 Elese Coit
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