Before I give you those, if the word ‘self-actualization’ rings odd for you, here's the idea: the entire point of exploring the inner self and how we work mentally is so that we can express who we are, rather than rehearse who we think we need to be.
When we don't understand how our own cogs turn, we are little more than organ grinder monkeys (who get lots of bananas).
This must be a bit of a theme in what I do, because this week is not the first time one of my clients came to the realization that very little mattered in life if they couldn't be themselves while living it. He called it, "Standing for Who I Am."
The realization that I didn’t want to spend the bulk of my life managing my personalities and masks (work, home, mom, athlete...) was a complete turning point in my life too.
While it’s possible to have success and never reconcile the different parts, for me it looked like ‘empty success’. In other words, you get there, but then you don’t recognize the person who is looking back at you in the mirror. Not all that satisfying. Not very meaningful.
So, if you like the idea of feeling satisfied and having meaning, here’s the four-point plan from Eldon
- Guard against what goes in
- Get inside yourself
- Change the context
- Remember you are a miracle
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