where the night has eyes
to recognize its own.
There you can be sure
you are not beyond love.
The dark will be your womb
The night will give you a horizon
further than you can see.
You must learn one thing:
the world was made to be free in...
(David Whyte, Excerpt from Sweet Darkness)
I must admit, I have always been a great big know-it-all. And a planner. I like to think I have a future, some influence over it, and that I know something.
The truth is, I don't.
Only the other day I was about to state one of my opinions as "fact" when I caught myself. As I pulled back I noticed I quieted down inside and settled into the nicest feeling of not being a somebody. I remembered how important it used to be to me to know (or to not look like I didn't) and to be seen as having authority. It's amazing, isn't it, how life is hard enough and yet on top of that we have the full time job of managing our image of ourselves!
I've learned so much about this and have relaxed much more into my authentic self in recent years.
In "101 New Pairs of Glasses" I included quite a few chapters on releasing this kind of strain and my favorite is the chapter on mystery. In it I advocate for the art of not-knowing. I'd like to remind myself of this message today
How do we listen and just let it become clear as we go?
Are we able to just rest in the fresh scent of the unknown and see what happens?
I'd like to share this piece from the chapter on mystery, mainly as a reminder to myself how valuable it is for me allow mystery to be here as I take each step...
Consumed by our desire to know, or not admit that we don't, we finish other people's sentences, we hate people we have never met, and we cling to things we have long outgrown.
Living in the world of familiarity our lives are choked off by the smallness of our ideas. Crowded in by the known we become selectors instead of creators. The death of curiosity is surely the birth of the ego, as children give up on being explorers of wild imaginings and doodads without names and become regurgitators of facts.
Our lack of curiosity leads directly to our unwillingness to fail and spreads from there to our unwillingness to try - because we already know. We know too much. And what we know isn't worth learning.
To allow wonder and mystery into your life is to suddenly find yourself in weightless spaciousness. We work so hard to fuel personal creativity, business and product innovation, but we would automatically have all of these if we added just an extra dash of curiosity to our daily vitamin supplements.
Imagine not knowing your boss, not knowing your children, not knowing yourself - being totally open. You'd listen closely. You would see new and amazing things. You'd discover the people you live with are people you've never met before. In the freshness of the moment you would unable to locate that familiar feeling of disconnection.
You would see into how your world is constructed. You'd gasp to realize you are much bigger than you ever imagined.
You'd lose your fear."
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