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Dealing with what life brings is not always easy. 

How can we gain a perspective on life that allows us to see clearly, be fully human and not have to numb ourselves to get through the difficult moments?

Aired Live Friday, February 4th
We know death is part of the natural cycle of life and yet it is a source of much heartache and pain for those left behind. Losing a loved one can bring each of us to the depths of sadness and heartbreak before we begin to step forward again. Could this difficult time also be a time to discover a courageous and powerful piece of ourselves?

My guest this week is Kristine Carlson. Her latest book “Heartbroken Open” is a memoir about her journey to heal after the unexpected and sudden death of her beloved husband and New York Time’s best selling author Richard Carlson (“Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff” series).

Visit Kristine Carlson at www.kristinecarlson.com

This week, my guest Allan Flood tells us about how his world was turned upside down when he was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in 1986. In the years following his diagnosis, Allan embarked on a journey to find peace, and ended up devoting his life to understanding the healing resources of himself and others.

His recently released book, “Perfect Misfortune – The 2010 Edition”, was rewritten and updated from the original book first published in 1999. This new edition features all of the same inspiration as the first book, along with additional insights and knowledge about the mental and spriritual strength it takes to heal.

Allan has recovered sensation in much of his body and has been free of new symptoms for several years. He continues to enjoy an active lifestyle.

Visit Allan at www.allanflood.com

At a time of lay-offs and foreclosures, even the most solid coping skills can be severely tested.  My guest Daphne Rose Kingma and I talk about how to keep your sense of equanimity, spirit and strength as you traverse life's trials.  In the midst of chaos, how to find rest, peace and the heart for recovery?

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Daphne Rose Kingma is an undisputed expert on matters of the heart. She is the author of ten books on love and relationships. Her latest book is Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart.

Daphne has been a six-time guest on Oprah. Her work has been featured on hundreds of radio programs, as well as in newspapers and magazines throughout the country. A charismatic speaker, Daphne presents keynotes and workshops around the world including for the Esalen and Omega Institutes. Daphne is also a highly esteemed emotional healer, providing insight, transformation and healing of the heart.

Find her on www.the10thingsbook.com

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Recently I've been testing the idea that 'suffering is optional' to see if it's more than a soundbite.  I've found some interesting things.  One that suffering is, actually, a choice. And two, that despite that, painful things do happen.  I can see  that sounds like a contradiction, so in the show I retrace  how I learned to meet my thoughts with understanding and to loosen my mind from the grip of repetitive thinking. 

I promised to post the ways you can get more familiar with your witness, from Wayne Dyer's Your Sacred Self (paraphrased in some sentences) Here you go:
  • Notice the noticer.
  • As you notice the noticer, remind yourself you cannot be hurt or suffer in any way. (you have a body, but you are not your body)
  • Use this affirmation: "In my world, nothing ever goes wrong". 
  • When you find yourself troubled say: "I am more than what bothers me"
  • Open to the idea that this will work for you - you've been conditioned to belief that your body is the essence of your humanity.
  • Don't evaluate your progress at noticing the witness
  • Practice new kinds of self talk. (You'd never say, "I am my broken leg"!) so let the noticer say "I am that which owns this body..."
  • Practice observing thought 30 minutes a day

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Talking with Asha Praver about crisis, real strength, higher awareness and coping with change...
Taught by a direct disciple of Paramhansa Yogananda, Asha Praver is Spiritual Co-Director of the Ananda Palo Alto Community. She invites us to discover the power to go deeper, to find compassion for ourselves and others and open to possibility, even at the worst of times. Today's uncertainty can be an invitation to care for yourself in new ways and build new strength. Asha shows us where to look for the courage we need..

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At the end of our lives we are very unlikely to think, “I sure wish I spent more time in the office.” 

Consider what you'd regret at the end of your days and you'll find a recipe for life. My guest is Stan Goldberg, author of Lessons for the Living: Stories of Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Courage at the End of Life.  It is just that.

You can learn more about him and read his blog at http://stangoldbergwriter.com.

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